Planning for Multi-generational living

When I was growing up my grandmother lived with us for much of the year, alternating between our house and my Aunt’s home in Agincourt. I feel very grateful to have gotten to spend that time with Granny – we were good company for each other - but I remember it was not always ideal. Sometimes feeling “in the way”, Granny tended to stay in her room despite our efforts to draw her out.

The reality for many families these days is the multi-generational house. The ‘sandwich generation’ cares for both children and older parents and often these circumstances dictate everyone being under one roof. So if it were possible to buy or design a property specifically for a multi-generational family, what would it be like?

Together but apart. Ideally the grandparents would have a suite or apartment that is self contained, such as over a garage. That way the three generations could be together if they wish or stick to their own space if privacy is desired. A basement suite can work as long as it doesn’t feel like a basement. Enlarged windows to let in natural light and a walk-out are good ideas.

A separate entrance would be ideal so that family members are free to come and go without feeling that they may be disrupting the others.

Sufficient separate living space. At minimum, there should be a bedroom, bathroom and living room for the grandparents so that they have space to pursue their own interests. Assuming that they are downsizing from their own homes, they should have their own furniture and decorate in a way that makes them feel at home.

Safety is a consideration for seniors’ spaces. Carpet is less slippery and more forgiving than tile or wood floors. Bathrooms should be equipped with walk-in showers with handrails. Sharp corners on counters and furniture should be avoided if at all possible. An intercom system or some other means of communicating between the separate spaces is a good safety measure to take.